a prayer
earth and light
in my meditation this morning
i imagined that the corona virus was being called into healing.
i saw, at its centre, a dim, forgotten, yet sacred light.
and my observation, my witnessing of this light, was enough to help the virus remember
what it had forgotten
i witnessed the dim, sacred light within it get brighter and brighter
holier and holier
i imagined that light heading back home, moving kindly out of the bodies of anyone afflicted
lifting into the sky, moving toward a bright, loving light that served as its loving, healing home.
truth. kindness. forgiveness. home.
this loving, light home in the sky took it all in
and transmuted it all into peace and wellness.
a healing
a remembering
a transformation
and i imagined all those who had been affected returned to being well again
and all inhabitants on this planet free
to roam and go as they pleased
in heart and harmony.
a simple 5 minute meditation. i saw it, i felt it, i was grateful for it.
so be it.
They’re gonna kiss ... I just know it!
There was touchdown, folks, a few moments later. It was magnificent.
I have felt such kisses …
Be ground. Be Crumbled.
Flower in Paros
“Very little grows on jagged rock.
Be ground. Be crumbled,
so wildflowers will come up
where you are.
You have been stony for too many years.
Try something different. Surrender."
- Rumi
It’s also been my personal experience that when I let go of controlling results, let go of resisting change, let go of identifying with my fears, let go of holding it all together ... when I’ve said, “ok, madness that shows itself it many forms, take me. What more have I got to lose at this point”, when I’ve thrown my arms wide to the sky and offered it my throat, my belly, my all ... is when the most beautiful and extraordinary gifts have suddenly offered themselves to me. Epiphanies. Aha’s. Ways of perceiving, living, tasting ... that I’d never considered before.
Vulnerability is porousness
And is intimate
Within it, I’ve witnessed possibility
And have become expansion itself
Surrender can mean to soften. To allow for the possibility of something new to enter. To listen. Accept. Tap into an inner knowledge of ok’ness. To let go of ‘fight’ and engage in discourse instead. To release the patriarchal desire to win and to entertain dialectic instead. To meet rather that to push. To see the storm as a million tiny raindrops, each providing their own contact. You can find your way within them rather than acknowledging them as an unbeatable force.
To love.
Within and without.
No matter what
on wholeness
Gaya card selected from the Gaya Oracle deck, messages and artwork by Toni Camine Salerno. This card represents wisdom, knowledge and spiritual understanding
To fix the world, you must first see it as broken.
I'm not so sure I'd go there.
- “Tut”, The Universe Talks
i read this in the morning just after a meditation on how i no longer desire to see people by how they present themselves. i choose to observe them, rather, in more a porous fashion. by the light i know they burn inside.
in my morning meditation, i felt the deep sensation of allness, togetherness, oneness ... my light kissing all light, identity was light itself.
how synchronistic to see the Tut message in my email box, then.
i know unbearable things are happening on our planet right now. we seem to be in process of facing and deciding what to do with these misguided actions and beliefs. i contemplate that we are in the process of healing what i observe to be the thickness inside of us ... identifies, pains, imprints that have us living in separation from one another. i feel into a homecoming. to our shared allness, shared heart and oneness.
i choose, in meditation and active intent, to feel into this all’ness, this unified heart and oneness
We are not broken
Nothing needs to be fixed
We are whole
Always were
when i am in the process of moving into a new home, i usually don’t bring the dust bunnies from under the couch along with me. i sneeze violently (i’m allergic) as i sweep it all and toss it into the bin. i recognize that most of that dust is comprised of my skin as well as other residuals from my home and from those who have tread within it. it’s never pleasant to deal with but i recognize the relationship. i can choose to resent it, be embarrassed by it, judge it but usually i choose to take responsibility for it. a mess i made, have neglected for too long, have contributed to it somehow in some way. it’s not other than me. it’s a combination of all that is of me and about me. and of the hearts who have shared space with me. i feel into its connection to me. and i also choose not to leave it behind for the new tenants or bring it along to my new home. it’s a moment of clean up. of recognizing my oneness with it and also my opportunity to let it go. relics of my past. old cells. old thoughts. old ways of gathering solution.
not a fixing.
i was never broken.
i just recognize that in the movement within my wholeness, some things naturally fall off, shed.
my natural state is renewal.
of bushfires and transmutation
babies in utero
it’s my current belief that i am light first before i am human. and i entertain that humanity and its relationships are like wallpaper hanging in a home. a design one can peel away. possibly re-decorate. or re-purpose. the home is the point.
my ultimate agency, my freedom, rests more in my soul than in my humanity. i entertain that i can re-purpose the breath within my cellular structure to understand, more thoroughly, the resonance of love. the is’ness of love which i also like to call home. i swim in that truth.
every moment a moment to rebirth. to re-member. re-organize myself from that deep place of home. of light.
i’ve been thinking about ancestral memory again ... how experiences, thoughts, memories can get passed down to us not only via customary means but also energetically, molecularly somehow ... if my mother developed her ovaries while in utero while my grandmother was pregnant with her, then do i carry my grandmother’s memories in me? there are many cultures who posit we hold up to 7 generations of ancestral memory in our dna. i wonder ... does energy even function through conventional understandings of time?
i get curious about rigidity … what i determine as the visceral response that comes from fear-based belief and emotion (and is the opposite of expansive reactivity that tends to come with feelings of trust and ok’ness). i feel driven to investigate the rigidity that builds seemingly out of bloody nowhere … the sensations that suddenly grip me into experiences of anxiety, fear, dread. of being outcast. of danger. i sometimes wonder if these sensations carry with them the energetic threads of ages past. is the trigger a signal … an opportunity to finally resolve a something. a hurt. from those who stood before me. and i also wonder ... are they limited to what i know to be of mine? of my lineage. could they be of my neighbours and of the community. in other words … am i just picking up on shit? i’ve been meditating on how we can have memory (from our own varied experiences on the planet), how we can carry memory (from our ancestors and, i entertain, from previous lifetimes on this planet) and how we can pick up memory (from those around us and who share our planet). on that last note, i get curious. within the embrace of home that knows no boundary, how much of what we pick up (that is not really ours) … is ours to heal?
in the moment of the now. can i heal what was, what is now … what is of mine and not of mine. of us.
i think of the hawaiian spirituality, ho’oponopono. in essence, it speaks to a belief that we are all interconnected. it offers that if i happen across someone in distress, it’s my opportunity to heal that distress (in myself) .... since we are all linked. we are asked to say to ourselves “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you” ... to ourselves. and in essence, heal the hurt that is swimming about in our collective hearts.
this leads me to responsibility. of the desire to live in service. of feeling into the interconnectedness of all of us … past, present and future. the responsibility. to serve as cleansing fire. resonant flame. a vibrational bushfire. energetic social action.
soft p politics, maybe
sensation. witness. hope. forgiveness. rebirth.
embrace.
to marry with active service. of action. let’s consider it (w)holistic global healing.
so then yiayia, in all dimensions, i cleanse you with all the fullness of my heart. no walls, actually. freedom.
within the vastness of our ever-expansive home, it seems we’ve birthed each other.
Burn Bright, Stay Soft
Softening wax
When there is a flame burning in a candle, the heat makes the density of the wax transform into liquid. The flame keeps the wax soft, malleable, transparent.
So too our density. When we keep the flame going inside our being, we allow our essence to soften, transmuting fears and identities into stuff more adaptable.
The light and its warmth are everything.
And it's transmuting capabilities miracle-minded.
Your flame is everything, loves.
Burn bright. Stay soft.
And keep those around you who remind you of this. Who lift you higher. Who offer stokings to your brilliant flame.
Your only job
Is to be the lit candle.
on far-reaching solidarity
marching to the beat of my own drum
Sitting on my balcony listening to the last of the crickets, feeling some heat on my face, a bit of tasty sun. I hear a little girl's voice giggling nearby.
Very sweet.
Then a man's booming voice cuts through the joy, "No. You can't do that. You can't do that. You're not strong enough!"
I take a look ... curious.
I see the little girl crossing the street skipping gleefully after the man. She says, "Papou (grandpa), I am strong enough. I AM strong enough! The thing was just a bit slippy! I'm strong!"
I think to myself, "Ya, you are! You are kickass strong and I am so proud of you declaring it loud and proud. Your papou just couldn't see beyond the given circumstances. Sometimes folks get nearsighted. They just know what they know. But you, dear one, are potential incarnate.
I whispered this in her ear in the form of love waves and butterfly kisses.
In solidarity, I yelled it myself from my cosmic rooftop!
"I am strong. I Am Strong!
Thanks kid! You helped me more than you will ever know.
on pride
stock swing photo doesn’t hold a candle to my old swing set …
i used to invite my girlfriends over in grade 5 and school them on the praxis of sex. we would swing from the rickety swing set in my parent’s front yard (one of the leg posts would occasionally lift up from off the ground and we’d all hold our breath, wondering if this would be the time we’d all topple over. we never did) and i would offer up what i felt was solid advice about all things love, relationships, and sexual practice. having memorized just about every page from my sister’s sociology of sex college textbooks, i experienced a deep sense of pride as I offered clinical information about my friends’ vulvas, hearts and ovaries. pride in my ability to synthesize clinical information into something relatable. pride in my lack of discomfort on the subject matter (i knew my friends were plenty shy about it all and i loved creating a safe environment so that they could feel free to ask questions). proud of my ability to move through the shame that my parents were actively trying to teach me about my body (according to their upbringing, our bodies were ‘dirty’). i was also proud in my ability to hold space for all the things we all didn’t quite know yet … no matter how much information the books gave us … we were children and we knew it would be years before any of us got to really experience things like sex, pregnancy and menopause. but some of us had already begun to menstruate and having a specific time to meet up and talk about our changing bodies was sacred for most of us. i’m convinced that the healthy relationship i have always had with my period is directly related to all of those front yard meetings. then again, i could simply be lucky that i never suffered from menstrual cramps. i know. i know. i count myself blessed.
i like pride.
there. i’ve said it.
i’m proud of that thing that sparked inside me of as a little kid that chose to detangle the harmful understandings of my social circle’s sexual upbringing. i’m proud that i listened to my impulses instead of being driven by the opinion and beliefs of others. i’m proud of myself for having known better. that i refused to feel embarrassed, ashamed or guilted out for what i was. a girl. with reproductive organs. and also a pulse of desire to feel pleasure. and express it with increased abandon.
one case of pride among many. this is a very early example.
so many other moments of pride to shout out about. and i think it’s important … crucial, even, that i list them. that i list them and that i read them over and over again to myself. especially on days when i am low and forgetting just how awesome i am.
i know it’s not common practice to talk about the things we are proud of in this culture. certainly not cool to publicize them. especially as women. we’re supposed to be humble and altruistic and all things gentle and self-effacing. i’m aware that, perhaps, religion and politics may have wormed their way into most humans’ psyches and have tried to extinguish pride as a moral practice. religious texts abound that reference pride directly as a sin. and even many non-religious people believe that a truly genuine act does not make room for the selfish state of pride. its not about you, they often judge. and it’s certainly not about how good you feel for having accomplished the thing.
i know i’m not alone in this … i offer that pride of oneself and of one’s accomplishments is a glorious thing. it’s a deep celebration of all that you are and it acknowledges and applauds your outreach and all that makes this world a better place for yourself and others around you. also, fuck it, whatever makes you feel good and impactful and lifts you to a place of I Count, I Am Valuable, I Am Significant and Worthy and I Am In Right Relationship to Those Around Me and to Those Who Share This Planet is a really cool thing.
i guess i could say, sure, it’s a tricky thing if one derives their sense of pride only from the accolades and approval of others. if that is the motivation of the act. that one derives their sense of pride from the gaze of others or what they imagine to be the gaze of others. if their sense of pride would disappear the moment someone gives them a side glance or questions their act. if the sensation of pride is that precarious … then, i wonder if the state should be called pride at all. perhaps more of something that rather speaks to a neediness and is more about insecurity than pride.
for me, authentic pride speaks to a yesness and is unshakeable. it’s a ‘hell yeah!’ that speaks to our resilience and capacity for having dealt with something. an unshakeable sense of expansion that is felt from having created something, moved through something, built and advanced something. that speaks to an acknowledgment of one’s skills and gifts and their awesome impact.
that, in my opinion, is fucking sexy.
pride is fucking sexy.
confidence and self-respect, feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction from one’s own achievements (webster’s definition of pride, folks) is sexy.
and for those folks out there who still feel uncomfortable with the idea of indulging in it, i want to offer this gentle prompt … perhaps its time to consider the resistance to feeling pride as a dysfunctional (read: learned) system of thought. kids naturally feel pride. it’s taught out of us. its political, peeps. the less pride we feel about our true accomplishments, the more susceptible we are to being told what is valuable from the outside … that includes media, systems of dominance, governments and consumer culture … and i posit, it’s a downward spiral toward climate demise. if you don’t feel you count, how are you supposed to care about what’s happening to your planet right now.
i’m offering that you take your moments … to refuel in what is working. what has worked. how you realize you make a difference. to feel it. to list it and to feel it. to list your accomplishments, especially if you are an activist of any kind. fuel up. do that for yourself. be deliciously proud. proud proud proud.
signing off now to go list off some things i’m most proud about myself and my achievements to date. i promise you, it will be pages and pages!
on vinyl couches
plastic runner with grips
ever had your thighs stick to plastic? in the middle of summertime? it requires a shit ton of patience to peel yourself free from it’s tricky little polymer grip. i had it down to an art.
my parents had this living room. it was covered in plastic. the couch, the lamps, even the carpet … all covered with this sheer plastic covering.
they referred to it as the good living room.
the good living room was for special guests only. notably, it was rare a guest was deemed special enough to enter. all in all, the good living room was a tough nut to crack.
i snuck in anyway.
there was a time when the good living room was just called … the living room. it was before all the renos. that living room saw a lot of living. my folks struggled considerably when they first moved to canada. and they struggled considerably with one another. considerably is a careful word. nonetheless, the living room held space for a lot of that considerable struggle … especially the barrel couch with the bar cabinet built right into it’s centre.
i snuck me some sweet tastiness from that bar cabinet sometimes when they were not looking. fermented cherry wine. from greece. the best.
in one of his renos, my dad transformed the basement into a den of sorts. the basement had been this dark and damp place. a place for only storage and the furnace. very creepy. there’s this story of my eldest sister bumping her head into a lamb that was hanging there to bleed out in the dark … i understand she had thought it was a pet … my parents had it grazing in the front yard for a while. i suppose it was going to serve as dinner for the upcoming week. new greeks living in tough ol’ montreal north. we must have been a sight. i really should check in with my sisters to verify the validity of this story … families tend to create myths in memory.
so then, the original living room became a do not enter zone. new furniture was bought. matching lamps were placed on small round marble tables. a new carpet was laid. and dozens of mirrors with a faint vine decal painted on them were attached to one of the walls to give the room the appearance of grandeur. the whole thing was meticulously covered up in this sheer protective cover. everything but the mirrors. but then again, they did have a smokey tint to them … so.
we were no longer allowed to play in there.
can this be considered gentrification? sorry bleeding lamb(s?), we’re moving in. too many memories in the old living room. got us a reno going on in there … right now, it’s too smothered in off-gasses. so, yeah, this place has potential … nice … thanks for the basement. never been lived in, has it? you were just hanging around for a while? we’ll lay down some carpet, clean off the walls and put up twinkly lights. the kids can play their music real loud in this new space. we’ll plaster stucco on the ceiling … a snazzy design to remind us of our heritage … two inch spikes of gypsum dripping from above … stalactites that’ll scratch the top of your head if you’re taller that 6’ and not too careful.
a little while ago, i discovered a saran wrap-thin coating of plastic hidden deep within my being. it was fitted so securely on the inside of my visceral body, my dura mater. i had no idea it was there. invisible on the outside. genius. i noticed it when it began to manifest in chronic back and neck pain, limiting my movement, forcing me to turn in. a kinetics session with a brilliant body worker uncovered everything. the practitioner placed a small ball under my pain, did some cranio-sacral work as my back was releasing and all of a sudden, a gripping cold white fear ran through my upper back. childhood memories. flooded out. rage. mine. and what i had absorbed from my dad. his anguish. a body imprint … a psychophysical photograph of sudden and violent impact. experienced as a baby. i had stopped breathing for a bit apparently. he vowed to get his shit together. it would be a struggle. my dad. an actual decent human being. who did some solid things. like feed his family. and was class parent in all my school field trips. who waved at me from the audience like a silly person whenever i was performing in a high school play. who also had a temper. struggling so hard to make ends meet. to get a hold of his life. to make appearances. he didn’t quite know what to do with his pain. he just kept adding rooms to the house. every few years, a new reno. every few years, another room deemed untouchable.
repressed trauma. what flooded out was new information. and it floored me. when the plastic was stripped, i shook for weeks. i wept and wept and rattled and burst. and throughout it all, something in me was shouting finally! my nakedness held me by the hand. all you’ve got to do now is keep witnessing it. live in it. feel it. let it move its way through you. let all that stuck energy move about and disperse. breathe.
strangely, part of the healing included forgiving myself for the imprint. not for having done anything wrong. but simply for the act of imprint. of forgiving the layer of protection. my rational brain still has a challenging time wrapping itself around that. but its what’s healed my back pain.
i remember helping my mother remove the plastic covering in the good living room on those rare moments when people were actually expected to enter the forbidden space. the plastic sheet that had covered the carpet had these little cleats in it so that it could grip the carpet better and keep it from slipping off. when we would remove the plastic covering, the carpet had these little permanent grooves in it.
i used to caress the grooves in the carpet to help the fibres spread out a bit easier. so, i guess, forgiving the imprint was a kind of caress. maybe a better word for the whole process is understanding.
back pain released, i’ve started strengthening exercises again. which allow for more supportive body investigations and impulses to fly physically free. so, yay for freedom. rebirth. restoration. i’m back to choreographing and demonstrating in my teaching.
the body … such a whisperer
and
gentrification is a motherfucker …
just sayin.
i am
home. i am
free. i am
breathing
i am
naked
… a big thank you to my hand-holders, my heart pals, my therapist, my body workers. they were a blessed buoy to me throughout.